Let’s say you go to medical school…

  And in your first class the professor says: “Today is your first day. We’re going to turn you into a medical doctor. It will be very fast and easy. You won’t need to do much thinking. It will come automatically to you. Just a few disciplines and you’ll be ready to heal the world!”

  What would you do?

  The first thing you’d do, would be to check if the professor wasn’t really a hired actor, put there to joke and make fun of all the freshmen students. After all, your friends warned you about the jokes they pull on new students.

  But what if, instead, in your fist class you were promised to be taught clear medical principles and disciplines by focusing on each one of them one at a time?

  Wouldn’t you think that the latter would be a more reasonable approach? Think about it…

  Brushing off any argument that would deem parenting of less importance than the medical profession, I am going to ask you bluntly the following question…

  How much do you care about the results of your parenting?

  Because if you care about your children’s success and happiness you will agree with me that cultivating the right parenting skills should become one of your most important goals in life.

  As it turns out,

  Cultivating the right parenting skills is not a quick fix approach. To make a point,

  Will you work on your self-growth for the sake of your kids?

  And because the goal is not small, it can’t be achieved immediately. It takes a process. It takes short-term actions for the long-term results.

  Truth be told, the best thing you can do is to realize that cultivating your skills as a parent, developing good habits has to be an inside-out process.

  Any change starts with AWARENESS.

  It might look like a small step. But consider this for a minute:

  Dr. James Prochaska, a psychologist at the University of Rhode Island, developed a widely influential model of the "stages of change."

  Six Stages of Change

1. Precontemplation - ("Never"): As far as I'm concerned, I don't have any problems that need changing.

2. Contemplation - ("Someday"): I've been thinking that I wanted to change something about myself.

3. Preparation - ("Soon"): I have decided to make changes in the next two weeks.

4. Action - ("Now"): Anyone can talk about changing. I'm actually doing something about it.

5. Maintenance - ("Forever"): I may need a boost right now to help me maintain the changes I've already made.

6. Termination - : In principle, the maintenance stage will lead to a phase in which the person is no longer tempted to revert to the former behavior and the change is
complete.

  Again: The first step is always awareness. Acknowledge. Realize…

  Simply become aware of a certain skill. Then, you will work on putting your attention on having the desired skill.

  Does it sound like an easy step? Or a challenging task?

  Do you want to know about the four basic skills you need to be aware of in your parenting?

Parenting From The Inside Out: Know The Four Pillars Of Succesful Parenting

 

 

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